Wednesday, December 9, 2020

Three of the Ways that a "Fully Included Academic Education" Prepped David for College Success

First, for an introduction to the D.M. Nisson, PhD story, click HERE to see my blog post of June 15, 2020.

For today's post on the topic of the advantages of a "Fully Included Education", here are three of the many ways that I feel my son's inclusive education contributed to his later college success:

1. Access to an academic curriculum

Not everyone has as high an IQ as David's, but when it comes to children's brains which are still developing, we should never "judge a book by its cover", and exclude a seemingly low IQ student from access to academics. Kids' brains can change a lot between kindergarten and grade 12! Had I gone along with the public school's insistence upon denying my son an academic education based upon his superficial appearance of "a hopeless case" at age 4, he would have lacked the proper foundation in math and science to study a STEM major in college.

2. Appropriately modeled behavior

It's always important to have a least one child in every group who follows the classroom rules so the other students can witness someone being rewarded with smiles and esteem-building words of appreciation from the teacher. In a class filled mostly of children who understand classroom behavior basics, those who have disabilities challenging them in this area will learn appropriate behavior more quickly than children segregated into a classroom filled entirely with children who share behavior difficulties. My son was able to learn how to function properly in a college classroom because he was surrounded by non-disabled peers who helped the teacher teach him how to behave in his K-12 classrooms.

3. Preparation for future college and/or professional teamwork

College requires teamwork, in class and in research groups. By high school at the latest, teachers need to be noting into student "Cumulative Files" and other records the teamwork strengths and weaknesses of each student. Who are the leaders, and will someday play the roles of future Project Coordinators, CEO's, or Principal Investigators? Or, which elementary students now shining in their current roles of "getters", or of "double-checkers", will grow up to succeed as Resource Investigators, or Completers-Finishers at college and beyond. Self knowledge in teamwork awareness is absolutely crucial to success in a college level research group, and this might be the single most important gift that my son's "fully included education" provided him.

These are just a few of the ways that my son's inclusive education contributed to his dramatic college level success. In conclusion, if you are the parent of a child with a disability, I encourage you to take the steps needed for your school district, or private school, to include them in an academically-based classroom. Bear in mind, however, that 'inclusion" is a relatively new idea, and each child's needs are unique, so even the best administrators and teachers often benefit from professional inclusion guidance. Are you UK-based? If so, I recommend that you consider contacting Inclusivity Consultant, Nazia Ansari of Inclusivity Education.

Monday, June 15, 2020

Intro to the D.M. Nisson, PhD Person-Centered Planning Success Story

So, what's the big deal? Many colleges are welcoming "autistic" students into their programs, right?

What's different about the story of David M. Nisson, PhD?

Actually, the difference is quite significant!
Autism is on a spectrum, but a lot of people don't realize this. So, most of the college programs are only set up to help "ASD" students who function independently at the mild end of the spectrum (Level 1), and exclude those Level 2 and 3 students with classic autism who require protective supervision.
But, that fact didn't stop me from backing my son's dream, nor did it scare off the boldly open minded team at UC Davis Physics and Astronomy.

Because most parents are unable to locate the resources to do as I did, David is the first American diagnosed by the late Dr. Darold Trefffert with aide-dependent, Level 2-3 "Savant Syndrome Autism" to earn his doctorate in physics from a top ranked United States university. I am Mary Nisson -- the mom who helped him get it done. During the years I spent at David's side while he studied at UC Davis, I recorded this blog. To begin at the beginning, scroll down to 2009 and enjoy reading!  ๐ŸŽ“ ๐Ÿ˜Š

Curious how our partnership succeeded?

The key was to 

[A] Reduce David's stress level and,

[B] Keep David's genius free to focus on his schoolwork and research, by letting me "sweat the small stuff" (that is often the cause of autistic students dropping out). 

So, while David was a lower division undergrad student at the respected Cosumnes River College (CRC) in Sacramento, California, and later upper division and grad school student at the world-renowned UC Davis Department of Physics and Astronomy (UCD), 

I:

  • provided him basic Protective Supervision from such dangers as cars in parking lots and chemicals in laboratories; ๐Ÿš—๐Ÿš— ⚛️
  • advised and troubleshooted with counselors, professors and other staff in how to accommodate David’s unusual classroom communication and health-related needs; 

These were a few of the supports that I provided so that David was able to produce scientific work good enough to receive scholarships, fellowships and grants to fund his bachelors and masters degrees.  $  ๐ŸŽ‰

Ready to follow in my footsteps?

As I said earlier, even with the new Self Determination Program and Person Centered Planning, most parents won't be able to follow in my footsteps all the way to the top of "the mountain", but I hope some can at least make it partway. 

Humanity and the planet upon which we depend need us to provide profoundly disabled, IHSS-requiring students an academic curriculum to prep for college so that we can access the potential in every potential scientist’s mind!  ๐ŸŒŽ 

My books are on the way; in the meantime, head back to the posts in 2009 and start reading. And, please feel free to ask me questions in the "comment" section, or to email me at: 

ddfp.planning@ gmail (dot) com.

                                                                                                                               

Tuesday, April 30, 2019

Welcome! ¡Bienvenidos a Todos!

Welcome to College and Career Autism Dream, my blog about helping my autistic son earn his degrees in physics at UC Davis.

This is a historical blog. It is my story of helping my autistic son at the university. You can read the story by clicking on the years from 2009 through on the right side of this web-page.

David graduated in 2015, so his college story is finished. Now, David gets help from his "day program", called Community and Employment Services/ Progressive Employment Service. He also gets help from his "supported living service" agency called On My Own.

After assisting David in the training and preparation of his supported living services staff and program, I slowly returned to my former career of teaching by starting out as a substitute teacher for DJUSD and WJUSD. However, I'm currently off from work to collaborate with David's dad to protect David from COVID-19 by sheltering-in-place until medical researchers develop a successful vaccine against this disease. While his regular Direct Service Providers (DST's) are temporarily suspended, I support David in reaching his Individual Service Plan (ISP) goals which include becoming skilled in home economics and housekeeping, health and wellness, financial planning and management, communication and problem solving, and community and social activities. Adults like David are as capable as the rest of us in their ability to function; they just take a little longer to get there than those of us privileged because we do not have a disability. Whenever I can find time, I translate this blog into Spanish.
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Bienvenido a College and Career Autism Dream, mi blog sobre ayudar a mi hijo autista a obtener sus tรญtulos en fรญsica en UC Davis.

Este es un blog histรณrico. Es mi historia de ayudar a mi hijo autista en la universidad. Puede leer la historia haciendo clic en los aรฑos que figuran en el lado derecho de esta pรกgina web.

David se graduรณ en 2015, por lo que su historia universitaria estรก terminada. Ahora, David recibe ayuda de su "programa diurno", llamado Servicios comunitarios y de empleo / Servicio de empleo progresivo. Tambiรฉn David recibe ayuda de su agencia de "servicio de vida con apoyo" llamada On My Own.
Despuรฉs de ayudar a David a entrenar y preparar a su personal y apoyar el programa de servicios de vivienda, lentamente volvรญ a mi antigua carrera docente comenzando como maestro sustituto de DJUSD y WJUSD. Sin embargo, actualmente estoy fuera del trabajo para colaborar con el padre de David para proteger a David de COVID-19 al refugiarme en el lugar hasta que los investigadores mรฉdicos desarrollen una vacuna exitosa contra esta enfermedad. Si bien sus proveedores regulares de servicios directos (DST) estรกn suspendidos temporalmente, apoyo a David a alcanzar sus objetivos del Plan de Servicio Individual (ISP) para convertirse en un experto en economรญa domรฉstica y limpieza, salud y bienestar, planificaciรณn y gestiรณn financiera, comunicaciรณn y resoluciรณn de problemas, y actividades comunitarias y sociales. Los adultos como David son tan capaces como el resto de nosotros en su capacidad de funcionar; solo tarda un poco mรกs en llegar que aquellos de nosotros privilegiados porque no tenemos una discapacidad. Siempre que puedo encontrar tiempo, traduzco el blog al espaรฑol.


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Saturday, November 17, 2018

Housing at last! David's SLS program can finally begin! / ¡El nuevo programa de David puede comenzar!


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Congratulations, David! 
After nearly two years of waiting on lists for "affordable housing", David's name finally rose to the top of a "Project Based Section 8" list and he's moving into his own home. Wow! So many stops and starts, and lessons learned along the way (which I shall share in my later Kindle publication).

In the meantime, he and I are training his new staff to take over for me on December 1st... at the same time as preparing him to move... and, of course, I will no longer qualify to live in our current housing, so I'm moving too...

As I said:  "Wow!"
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Despuรฉs de casi dos aรฑos de espera en las listas de "viviendas asequibles", el nombre de David finalmente llegรณ a la cima de una lista de "Secciรณn 8 basada en proyectos" y se mudarรก a su propia casa. ¡Guauu! Tantas paradas y comienzos, y lecciones aprendidas en el camino (que compartirรฉ en mi publicaciรณn de libro posterior).


Mientras tanto, รฉl y yo estamos entrenando a su nuevo personal para que se haga cargo de el el 1 de diciembre ... al mismo tiempo que lo preparamos para mudarse ... y, por supuesto, ya no calificarรฉ para vivir en nuestro actual vivienda, asรญ que tambiรฉn me mudo ...


Como dije: "¡Guau!"


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Tuesday, August 21, 2018

A Model of a Coordinated Care treatment plan/ Un Modelo de un Plan de Tratamiento de Atenciรณn Coordinada

Many Autistic individuals have anxiety, (Kim, et al) and many anxiety sufferers in turn suffer from "acid reflux disease" or "GERD". (Javadi and Shafikhani) And, when you put these two together, you often get "PVFM".

My son, savant autistic software developer, David Nisson, PhD has struggled with these challenges for years. To defeat an enemy, we first must name it, so I call it the "Vicious Cycle of Co-Occurring Conditions".
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Muchas personas autistas tienen ansiedad y muchas personas que padecen ansiedad a su vez sufren de "enfermedad por reflujo รกcido" o "ERGE". Cuando juntas estos dos, a menudo obtienes "PVFM".


Mi hijo, desarrollador de software con autismo avancado, David Nisson, PhD ha luchado con estos desafรญos durante aรฑos. Para derrotar a un enemigo, primero debemos nombrarlo, asรญ que lo llamo el "Ciclo Vicioso de las Condiciones Co-Ocurrentes". Echa un vistazo a los diagramas que creรฉ en esta pรกgina.
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Diagram #1:


Is this happening to you, or to someone you know?

If so, you might want to keep reading::

Autistic adults David's age or older (he's 30) are burdened by having been raised in a time of ignorance regarding developmental disabilities. All young mothers complain about their babies' and toddlers' inability to communicate medical discomfort, and rejoice when their kids get old enough to finally describe what's bothering them, instead of just crying all the time.

But, when I was a young mother of an autistic kid, my friends and I complained about having to wait until later before our children could accurately describe medical symptoms to us, and to their doctors. We were  left to guess at problems simply through observation. Today, the medical community understands and honors that, because physicians only see patients occasionally, the opinions of family members are crucial to doctors. However, David Nisson, was a child during the final age of doctors maintaining an authoritative attitude toward parents. This created a problem that wasn't resolved until he was 25 years old.

Since his earliest days on earth, David had a problem with his throat that caused him to have occasional, frightening-to-observe choking experiences, often after taking a sip of water. Of course, it never happened in the actual doctor's office. So, they didn't take me seriously. "Stop worrying so much". "You're just imagining things, Ms. Nisson". Those of you with gray hairs and crows feet remember the drill.

I'm not claiming those doctors were evil. Not at all. In fact, I will always be very grateful to the wonderful Dr. Robert Peterson of the former Roseville Pediatrics, who informed me about the Alta California Regional Center. Oh my goodness! The word helpful doesn't begin to describe how essential to David's success the support of ACRC has proven!

No, the doctors weren't to blame, although I'm glad that society has changed so that they're no longer allowed to speak down to their patients. Rather, the problem was that the severe form of acid reflux disease  known as "GERD" hadn't yet been studied; neither had "PVFM". In fact, only now are medical researchers and physicians learning to distinguish between asthma and PVFM (paradoxical vocal fold motion disorder). (Please share this article widely with others:  https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2599980/

So, David wasn't diagnosed with the separate diagnoses of "Panic Disorder"/"Anxiety Disorder" of "GERD" and of "PVFM" until adulthood. Just five years ago the well-informed MD's, Dr. Mark Ewens and Dr. Stephen Nowicki-  foremost in their specialties- discovered that David's anxiety and throat-discomfort issues were a result of two separate illnesses: "Panic Disorder" and "GERD". It turns out that the name of the frightening-looking wheezing type episode observed most commonly when David drank water is called "laryngospasm", or "stridor". Fortunately, at long last, in his mid twenties, David was able to speak about his symptoms directly to his physician, Dr. Ewens. The doctor took David seriously, and referred him to an ENT specialist, Dr. Steven Wright, OD. Dr. Wright immediately recognized the problem as the newly discovered phenomenon called "PVFM". and formally diagnosed David with this disease. The fact that Dr. Wright knew about PVFM spoke volumes regarding his trustworthiness. What a well-informed, on-the-ball doc!
Right?
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¿Te estรก sucediendo esto a ti o a alguien que conoces?


Si es asรญ, es posible que desee seguir leyendo ::


Padres con hijos autisticos que tienen 30 aรฑos o mas estuvieran agobiados con la ignorancia de los doctores con respecto a las discapacidades del desarrollo. Todas las madres jรณvenes se quejan de la incapacidad de sus bebรฉs y niรฑos pequeรฑos para comunicar molestias mรฉdicas, y se regocijan cuando sus hijos son lo suficientemente mayores como para finalmente describir lo que les molesta, en lugar de solo llorar todo el tiempo.


Pero, cuando era una joven madre de un niรฑo autista, mis amigos y yo nos quejamos de tener que esperar hasta mรกs tarde antes de que nuestros hijos pudieran describirnos con precisiรณn los sรญntomas mรฉdicos a nosotros y a sus mรฉdicos. Nos dejaron adivinar los problemas simplemente a travรฉs de la observaciรณn. Hoy, la comunidad mรฉdica comprende y honra que, dado que los mรฉdicos solo ven a los pacientes ocasionalmente, las opiniones de los miembros de la familia son cruciales para los mรฉdicos. Sin embargo, David Nisson, era un niรฑo durante la edad final de los mรฉdicos que mantenรญan una actitud autoritaria hacia los padres. Esto creรณ un problema que no se resolviรณ hasta que tenรญa 25 aรฑos.


Desde sus primeros dรญas en la tierra, David tuvo un problema con su garganta que le causรณ experiencias ocasionales y atemorizantes de observar, a menudo despuรฉs de tomar un sorbo de agua. Por supuesto, nunca sucediรณ en el consultorio del mรฉdico real. Entonces, no me tomaron en serio. "Deja de preocuparte tanto". "Solo estรก imaginando cosas, Sra. Nisson". Aquellos de ustedes con canas y patas de gallo recuerdan el ejercicio.


No estoy afirmando que esos doctores fueran malvados. De ningรบn modo. De hecho, siempre estarรฉ muy agradecido con el maravilloso Dr. Robert Peterson de la antigua Pediatrรญa de Roseville, quien me informรณ sobre el Centro Regional de Alta California. ¡Oh Dios mรญo! ¡La palabra รบtil no comienza a describir cuรกn esencial para el รฉxito de David ha demostrado el apoyo de ACRC!


No, los mรฉdicos no fueron los culpables, aunque me alegro de que la sociedad haya cambiado para que ya no se les permita hablar con sus pacientes. Mรกs bien, el problema era que la forma grave de la enfermedad de reflujo รกcido conocida como "ERGE" aรบn no se habรญa estudiado; ninguno tenรญa "PVFM". De hecho, solo ahora los investigadores mรฉdicos y los mรฉdicos estรกn aprendiendo a distinguir entre asma y PVFM (trastorno paradรณjico del movimiento de las cuerdas vocales). (Comparta este artรญculo ampliamente con otros: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2599980/


Entonces, a David no se le diagnosticaron los diagnรณsticos separados de "trastorno de pรกnico" / "trastorno de ansiedad" de "ERGE" y de "PVFM" hasta la edad adulta. Hace apenas cinco aรฑos, los mรฉdicos bien informados, el Dr. Mark Ewens y el Dr. Stephen Nowick, principalmente en sus especialidades, descubrieron que los problemas de ansiedad y malestar de garganta de David eran el resultado de dos enfermedades separadas: "trastorno de pรกnico" y "ERGE". . Resulta que el nombre del episodio de tipo sibilante de aspecto aterrador que se observa con mayor frecuencia cuando David bebiรณ agua se llama "laringoespasmo" o "estridor". Afortunadamente, por fin, a mediados de sus veintes, David pudo hablar sobre sus sรญntomas directamente a su mรฉdico, el Dr. Ewens. El mรฉdico tomรณ a David en serio y lo remitiรณ a un especialista en otorrinolaringologรญa, el Dr. Steven Wright, OD. El Dr. Wright reconociรณ de inmediato el problema como el fenรณmeno reciรฉn descubierto llamado "PVFM". y diagnosticรณ formalmente a David con esta enfermedad. El hecho de que el Dr. Wright supiera sobre PVFM dijo mucho sobre su confiabilidad de el. ¡Quรฉ tan bien informado este doctor es!

¿Correcto?
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 But then, the good doctor did something strange. He referred David for treatment of this throat problem to a speech and language pathologist.
 "Wait a minute, Doctor. I don't understand. Did you say speech and language specialists can treat this PVFM thing? Speech and language? Like in the public schools?"
"Not 'specialist'. 'Pathologist'. He'll help David. Trust me".

We did trust him, and David's life has been golden ever since. Speech and Language Pathologist Extraordinaire, Scott Jackson, whose office is in Fairfield, California, is amazing! The techniques this man taught David have worked like magic to stop those creepy "stridor"/"laryngospasm" episodes within moments of starting. This is the key to ending the "Vicious Cycle" the moment it starts.  (See diagram #2)
 Pero entonces, el buen doctor hizo algo extraรฑo. Remitiรณ a David para el tratamiento de este problema de garganta a un patรณlogo del habla y el lenguaje.

  Yo dije: "Espere un momento, doctor. No entiendo. ¿Dijo que los especialistas en solo habla y lenguaje pueden tratar esta cosa PVFM? ¿Lenguaje? ¿Como en las escuelas pรบblicas?"

El doctor dijo: "No 'especialista'. 'Patรณlogo'. El yudarรก a David. Confรญa en mรญ".


Confiamos en รฉl, y la vida de David ha sido excelente desde entonces. ¡El extraordinario patรณlogo del habla y lenguaje, Scott Jackson, cuya oficina se encuentra en Fairfield, California, es increรญble! Las tรฉcnicas que este hombre le enseรฑรณ a David han funcionado como magia para detener esos espeluznantes episodios de "estridor" / "laringoespasmo" en el momento de comenzar. Esta es la clave para terminar el "Ciclo Vicioso" en el momento en que comienza. (Ver diagrama #2  arriba)
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But what about preventing the Vicious Cycle from starting in the first place?
 Here's David's program:

1. He prevents the "GERD" from forming in his digestive system through carefully managed diet and exercise.

2. Anxiety also contributes to the GERD, so as with the PVFM, David's targeted his anxiety with help from the following team of psychological professionals.

(a) His autism/adhd specialist, Dr. Stephen Nowicki, worked with David on "CBT"-- a classic technique. Dr. Nowicki's help was irreplaceable and all-important. For those autistic people who have "just some anxiety" accompanying their autism, without it being the separate phenomenon of "Panic Disorder", basic "CBT" instruction is enough. However, for David, this wasn't enough.

(b) So, the wonderful "ACCESS" program at the UC Davis MIND Institute "put the icing onto the anxiety cake".
 (c) As a followup to the ACCESS program, David was then blessed to spend a highly helpful year receiving further anxiety-management assistance from Garrett Gower, formerly of the MIND Institute.

 (d) Today, David receives anxiety management assistance that is specifically in preparation for workplace success from the outstanding team at "Community and Employment Services" of the "Progressive Employment Concepts" program. 

Some autistic people really do just have some mild anxiety and a few tummy troubles, which don't need separate diagnoses, and separate doctors. But, if these symptoms are dramatic, then I recommend requesting primary care doctors to refer you or your loved one to specialists who can check whether a separate diagnosis is called for. At one point, David had some symptoms indicating possible mild epilepsy, so David' doctor referred him to a neurologist, who took MRI's and did other diagnosing.

No epilepsy. Phew!
But, do you see how it was still better to have gotten the referral than not to do it?
In David's case, taking the step of creating a Coordinated Care team of specialists to target his anxiety, GERD, and PVFM has made all the difference for his happiness, his health, and therefore his success!

Do we frost the cake before, or after, placing it into the oven? First we bake that cake, let it cool, and then frost and decorate it. That may seem a silly analogy, but it's what my generation of parents did, and some young parents are still doing. In David's case, it wasn't until recently that we "baked" the PVFM, Anxiety, and GERD in "the oven" of a Coordinated Care team of specialists, before frosting it all with his IPP/ISP.

As always, it all comes back to the documents!

Once David and his IPP/ISP team understood about these co-occurring conditions, and then evaluated how they interact with David's autism, we were able to restructure his IPP/ISP goals.

Here's an image of David's "Vicious Cycle" of Co-Occurring Conditions. Is this happening to you, or to someone you know?

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Pero, ¿quรฉ hay de evitar que comience el ciclo vicioso en primer lugar?

 Aquรญ estรก el programa de David:


1. David evita que se forme la "ERGE" en su sistema digestivo de el a travรฉs de una dieta y ejercicio cuidadosamente administrados.


2. La ansiedad tambiรฉn contribuye a la ERGE, por lo que con el PVFM, David evita su ansiedad con la ayuda del siguiente equipo de profesionales psicolรณgicos.


(a) Su especialista en autismo / TDAH, el Dr. Stephen Nowicki, trabajรณ con David en "TCC", una tรฉcnica clรกsica. La ayuda del Dr. Nowicki fue insustituible y muy importante. Para aquellas personas autistas que tienen "solo un poco de ansiedad" que acompaรฑa a su autismo, sin que sea el fenรณmeno separado del "trastorno de pรกnico", la instrucciรณn bรกsica de "TCC" es suficiente. Sin embargo, para David, esto no fue suficiente.


(b) Entonces, el maravilloso programa "ACCESS" en el UC MIND Institute de UC Davis "puso la guinda del pastel de ansiedad".

 (c) Como seguimiento del programa ACCESS, David tuvo la bendiciรณn de pasar un aรฑo muy รบtil recibiendo mรกs asistencia para el manejo de la ansiedad por parte de Garrett Gower, anteriormente del Instituto MIND.


 (d) Hoy, David recibe asistencia para el manejo de la ansiedad que estรก especรญficamente en preparaciรณn para el รฉxito en el lugar de trabajo del equipo sobresaliente en "Community and Employment Services" del programa "Progressive Employment Concepts".


Algunas personas autistas realmente tienen un poco de ansiedad leve y algunos problemas estomacales, que no necesitan diagnรณsticos separados y mรฉdicos separados. Pero, si estos sรญntomas son dramรกticos, entonces recomiendo solicitar a los mรฉdicos de atenciรณn primaria que lo remitan a usted oa su ser querido a especialistas que puedan verificar si se requiere un diagnรณstico por separado. En un momento, David tenรญa algunos sรญntomas que indicaban una posible epilepsia leve, por lo que el mรฉdico de David lo remitiรณ a un neurรณlogo, que tomรณ una resonancia magnรฉtica e hizo otros diagnรณsticos.

Los resultos son sin epilepsia ¡Buenas Noticias!

Pero, ¿ves cรณmo aรบn era mejor haber obtenido la referencia que no hacerlo?

En el caso de David, dar el paso de crear un equipo de especialistas de Atenciรณn Coordinada para enfocarse en su ansiedad, ERGE y PVFM ha marcado la diferencia para su felicidad, su salud y, por lo tanto, su รฉxito.


¿Ponemos las decoraciones el pastel antes o despuรฉs de colocarlo en el horno? Primero horneamos ese pastel, lo dejamos enfriar, y luego lo decoramos. Puede parecer una analogรญa tonta, pero poniendo las decoraciones primer es lo que hizo mi generaciรณn de padres, y algunos padres jรณvenes todavรญa estรกn haciendo. En el caso de David, no fue hasta hace poco que "horneamos" correctamente el PVFM, la ansiedad y la ERGE en "el horno" de un equipo de especialistas de atenciรณn coordinada, antes de poner las "decoraciones" en su IPP / ISP.
Como siempre, ¡los documentos controlan todas las decisiones por nuestras familias y nuestros hijos! (IPP/ISP documentos de ellos con Regional Center)

Despues que la familia e el equipo de David comprendieron estas condiciones concurrentes y luego evaluaron cรณmo interactรบan con el autismo de David, pudimos reestructurar los objetivos de IPP / ISP.

Una imagen del "Ciclo vicioso" de David de condiciones concurrentes esta en diagrama #3.

¿Te estรก problema sucediendo esto a ti o a alguien que conoces?

Diagram #3 --

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Saturday, August 11, 2018

Complications delaying David's Adult Program/Complicaciones que retrasan el programa para adultos de David



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Lo siento que no tengo tiempo hoy para traducir a espanol hoy.
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In my post of July 31, I expressed my disappointment at living for weeks on end out of packed boxes, prepared to move overnight at a moment's notice into our promised new apartment that still hasn't materialized.

Funny how disappointment goes, though...sometimes bad things happen for a good reason...

David and I received some interesting news from the manager at the premiere low income housing development of our city, upon whose wait list David has sat since 2017. I thought the wait for one of their high quality two bedroom units would be at least another two-to-three years, but according to the manager, David's name will rise to the top sometime in 2019.

That's great!

However, it leaves us with significant decisions to make regarding our where to live until then.
  • To review, our current apartment is not a "great sell" to those we had hoped would replace me as David's roommate, so we were planning to move to a nice, modern home, pleasant enough to attract the pickiest** of potential roommates.We're certain that by late summer 2019, David will find someone who qualifies financially to be happy sharing an apartment with him. As soon as that lease is up, I move out, and the new roommate moves in.
  • There's a catch, though. That new apartment in the non-premiere (but better than current housing) situation has a year-long lease. If the premiere apartment comes available before that lease is up, we pay exorbitant costs in lease-break fees. 
  • Month to month agreements are nearly unheard of in Davis, but our current apartment is on a month to month agreement. If we stay here until the premiere place becomes available, we can move out when we wish without paying fees.
A redeeming feature of our current, less-than-ideal home.
Good lessons for David that, in life, every dream has its cost.



** While it's true that we lost a couple potential roommate because they were too "picky" to live in David's current, less-comfortable apartment (wall heater instead of central heat, etc). Hundreds of UC Davis students would pay truckloads of money for any place to live in our too-small city, but tax credit housing is denied to full time students. Some low-income, non-students wanted to live here, too, despite this apartment's issues, but the FHA has so many restrictions, and they failed to qualify.

(Because "affordable housing" is not allowed in Davis for full time college students, David and I were forced into outrageously expensive market price housing during David's graduate school years. To afford it, I slept in the living room of a one bedroom apartment. Personally, for all its faults, I love our crummy, old apartment because, at fifty-eight years old, I cherish having my own room).
(Post #4)


Tuesday, July 31, 2018

Waxing Philosophical - a Lesson on the Ancient Deity "Dis"/¡Quรฉ filosรณfico!


(Post #5)—  
Lo siento que no tengo tiempo hoy para traducir a espanol hoy.  
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And now to wax spiritual about our latest (political) event--

There we were, happy to finally, finally be moving forward toward the day that I can return to teaching because David will finally, finally, FINALLY have a roommate, so as to begin his Supported Living Services program. (On My Own).

We had even received a letter confirming which apartment would be ours.
Then, it happened.
Disappointment in an email. Through a complication resulting from housing regulations, our apartment was lost. So, here we remain, living in boxed-up Limbo. How disappointing.

Disappointment is impossible to avoid at times, isn't it? Yet Christians like me, and other followers of God, are supposed to turn our disappointments into opportunities to "bend one's will to that of The Lord".

Well, today, it's got me beat. I just can't get over it...

And now to show why it is that we really, really MUST find a way to get me back into my English-teaching classroom:
Let's cheer me up with a vocabulary lesson! Root words-- my favorite!
Ever wonder how spirituality relates to the root words in "disappointment"?

Well, here goes. Let's begin with the word "Dis":

  • "Dis" is the ancient Roman name for that creature whom the Greeks called "Hades", the king of hell- the God of Negativity and Pessimism. In The Aeneid, Virgil wrote:
"The door of Dis stands open night and day...".
Thanks, Virgil! This helps me forgive myself for having inadvertently wandered through Disappointment's Door, losing my normal optimistic composure. And, Virgil's poem helps me see how that ancient deity lives on in modern English. Today, the word  dis is synonymous with not. 

Some examples are:


  • like/ dislike
  • encourage/ discourage
  • ease/ disease

So, when we discourage people instead of encouraging them; when we dislike them instead of trying to see something likeable; when we allow disappointment to distract us from counting our blessings, we are, in a sense, accidentally worshiping the God of Negativity.

Next, let's look at the other part of the word disappoint which is, of course, appoint.
No, not in the appointed office, governmental appointment sort of meaning, although English speakers have used it that way for hundreds of years.

In the word "disappoint", we mean appoint in the sense of setting an appointment- in  David's and my case an appointment for 5:00 pm, July 16th, 2018 to sign a lease. Not simply for a new apartment, but for a new lease on life!

(To understand why it's more than just an apartment, please read my post of July 27 entitled"Will you need to cash out your retirement to help your adult son or daughter?").

Today's disappointment stings, but I also know that, as Teresa of Avila wrote, "All things pass".

Across a vista of nearly six decades, I look back on the journey of my life, at previous disappointments that worked themselves out in the long run, and I witness that the power of "Dis" was just an illusion. The God who is healing this world and all in it, the God of love- of tikkun olam- allows the breaking of appointments and other suffering for a good reason. Somehow, there's a better apartment than the one for which we got all packed up. Or, perhaps not. Perhaps the good God has other plans I can't see now because I'm merely human:

  • Does the Holy Spirit want me to quit feeling sorry for myself as the reason for this housing delay is that I have too much money in retirement set aside for David's Special Needs Trust? How many parents my age were unable to save anything at all for their disabled offspring?
  • Or, is God using this "tribulation" to improve my plot for the book I'm writing? (one needs conflict to write a good story);
  • Is God providing David and me an opportunity to pay our dues and earn our stripes, as we struggle alongside others fighting this final American Revolution? (... the Disability Revolution!!)
  • This event is helping me to feel greater compassion for the too-many families running from nearby wildfires. After all, our stuff is in boxes; their stuff is burned.
Yes, today's situation is a sticky wicket, but not as sticky as are the wickets of most other human beings.

"Patience achieves everything." - Teresa of Avila

(Post #5)